Dealing With Rejection Using 6 Easy Steps

How to Handle Rejection

Whether you tried getting the number of your gym crush, were last picked for the company’s annual softball game, weren’t accepted at your dream school or declined for a new job, rejection hurts. Everyone has experienced it and it is very possible you will be rejected for something or by someone in the future. However, we composed a quick guide on how you can manage the awful feeling of rejection in just 6 steps:

  1. Cry if you want. It is not a bad thing to feel emotions; there is no harm in giving yourself some time even a full day to feel sad or disappointed.
  2. Learn why. It is important to figure out why you were rejected, take it upon yourself to learn where the “no” came from. Naturally, give yourself some time to calm down or get back into baseline before approaching the responsible individual. If that girl or boy said no to you asking for their number, ask why because you could learn something useful. “I’m sorry, I’m already in a relationship.” Or, “We are looking for someone who can work more hours.” Now you can realize that it was nothing personal and they might’ve provided you with some constructive feedback.
  3. Immediately begin taking action towards your goals. Your response may vary greatly depending on the situation. For example, you can start applying at other companies after tweaking your resume to reflect that you have no issue working longer than expected or apply at other schools after touching up on your application essays or verifying that you submitted accurate information. It will feel good to get back out there and try again.
  4. Have a backup plan. If you are only dating one person and they tell you that they don’t want to see you anymore, that’s going to hurt. However, if you’re dating a couple of people that you find interesting and enjoyable and one ends up cutting it short, you won’t be completely devastated and can begin focusing on other dates. Make sure to create Plan B, C and so forth so you can jumpstart step 3.
  5. Accept that some things are just meant to be. Rejection happens, sometimes there may be no depth to the reasoning behind it and that’s perfectly okay. We all know the famous saying that when one door closes, another one opens and you may not know exactly where that door is. Don’t take it too seriously and begin moving forward in your goals or relationships.
  6. Ask for help. Getting support and encouragement from your family or friends who love and care about you can make a huge difference in your attitude and mood. Maybe all you need is a hug or a conversation over coffee to get you back into the groove of things.

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What is Government Pension Offset (GPO)?

If you expect to get a pension for work that Social Security does not cover, such as government or foreign employment, any Social Security benefits that qualify to receive on your spouse’s record could be reduced proportionately.

The title of this benefit reduction is Government Pension Offset or GPO. Some people are excluded from the GPO.

Information You Need to Calculate Your Benefits If You Are Affected by the GPO

To estimate your future spouse’s, widow’s, or widower’s benefits according to GPO, you’ll need two things:

  • The estimated “gross” monthly amount of your pension from your government job not covered by Social Security.
  • The estimated monthly amount of your Social Security benefit as a spouse, widow, or widower before the effect of GPO.

If you will be eligible for spouse’s benefits and have access to your spouse’s estimate:

  • Find the estimated total of the retirement benefit your spouse would qualify to receive at full retirement age. If your spouse already gets Social Security benefits, ask them what their benefit would be if it began at their full retirement age.
  • Divide this amount in half and round down to the nearest dollar. This is your estimated spouse’s benefit if you retire at full retirement age.

If you will qualify for Social Security retirement benefits based on your own earnings records:

  • Along with a larger benefit based on your spouse’s earnings record, it will affect your benefits as a spouse, widow, or widower.

To create a more precise estimate of how much the government pension you will earn for work that Social Security doesn’t cover will influence the portion of your benefit dependent on your spouse’s work:

  • Enter the estimated “gross” monthly amount of the government pension (in today’s dollars) you will receive for work not covered by Social Security in Step #1 of “Calculate Your Benefits.”
  • Use your most recent estimate to determine your estimated retirement benefit based on your own earnings record.
  • Your retirement benefit based on your own earnings may be reduced due to another provision of the law, the Windfall Elimination Provision.
  • Subtract the estimated amount of your retirement benefit from the estimated amount of your spouse’s, widow’s, or widower’s benefit before GPO. Enter that amount in Step #2 of “Calculate Your Benefits” and select “Compute.”
  • The amount in #3 of “Calculate Your Benefits” is your estimated spouse’s, widow’s, or widower’s benefit after GPO is applied. Add that figure to the estimated amount of your retirement benefit to determine your total estimated monthly benefit.

If you retire before full retirement age:

  • Your total benefit as a spouse will be lowered. The reduction is dependent on your birth date. The maximum reduction for benefits beginning at age 62 is 30 % for someone born in 1946. It will increase to 35% for people born in 1960 or later.